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Marriage comparison can create resentment and social isolation. If there are issues in your marriage, look at them and deal with them.
The purpose of a serious relationship is not what you can extract or gain from it. It is about the safety, security, and mutuality you create with your partner.
Our intimate relationship has the power to unlock joy and confidence that could not be achieved on our own. Take care of it carefully!
A pro-relationship orientation over a pro-self orientation paradoxically will benefit you more. You will not “lose yourself” if security is guaranteed. You will have more resources to achieve your personal goals.
What is the purpose of being together? What guarantees can you two provide each other? This discussion is important as novelty and excitement of the courtship phase transitions into a sense of stability and permanency in the relationship. Read More
Your partner should not have to compete with anything or anyone for your resources. Common examples are work, in-laws, friends, porn, or alcohol/drugs. If your partner feels like they are losing, you are losing. You both need to be winning. Read More
How do you want your friends and family to view your relationship? Have a goal and work towards it!
Become aware of your partner’s vulnerabilities. With this awareness, you have more agency with your partner. If you avoid triggering vulnerabilities, there will be less conflict and more harmony. Read More
Embrace serendipity. A conversation has a will of its own. Let it tell you where it wants to go. Challenge your routines. Read More
“Silence is one of the great arts of conversation,” Cicero is said to have asserted. Listening is a gift of voice to others. With silence you can sense the emotions, hidden meaning and physical language of your conversational partners. Read More
Conversation demands courage. It requires our vulnerability. Take off your masks. Read More
Are you your job title? Or do you have other passions and facets to your values and sense of identity? Find the passions of others by moving beyond the standard question: “What do you do?” Read More
Be empathic. Use conversation to place yourself in the shoes of others, and pierce the echo chambers and silos of your usual experience. Understand others by talking with them about their experiences and thoughts. Read More
Are you open and curious? Or do you have an agenda or ulterior motive, objectifying others as a means to your ends? For rewarding conversation you must cultivate an attitude of open curiosity. Read More
When you are dating, always ask before trying a new sexual activity with your partner. Read More
Tell ’em You Love ’em! If you live with an actual person or an animal that you treat like a person, tell them you love them in the morning instead of just slogging your way out the door half-asleep. Read More
Are you finding it hard to initiate sex? Choose an item to do the talking for you and your lover. It can be a small pillow or a block with one color on either side. Pick the color that indicates you're in the mood and leave it in a place for your lover to get the message.
Create a love haven. Decorate your bedroom with sexy party favors. Light two pink candles in a safe place. Candlelight flicker is romantic and sets the mood.