Fighting Tips
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Plan your arguments. When you want to discuss a hot topic, ask yourself whether you and your partner have had enough positive interactions recently to sustain a tough conversation. Tell your partner you would like to schedule a time to discuss something difficult.
When you're upset, invite your partner to problem-solve with you. Rather than criticizing, mention your concern in a neutral tone and suggest the two of you brainstorm a solution that will work for both of you. Read More
Agree on a "safe word" either of you can use to call a time-out when you are feeling overwhelmed in an argument. Often couples choose a word that is random or even funny, like "elephant." When you use your safe word, agree on a time when you will resume talking. Read More
Focus on managing your conflicts, not eliminating them. Research shows that over 60 percent of problems in long-term relationships are never solved. Instead of trying to win the argument, focus on understanding each other and working toward compromise.